Friday, September 25, 2015

Parshas Ha'azinu - Cheating Death

~Thoughts On The Parsha~
Parshas Ha'azinu


Cheating Death
By: Daniel Listhaus

וַיְדַבֵּר ה' אֶל מֹשֶׁה בְּעֶצֶם הַיּוֹם הַזֶּה לֵאמֹר: עֲלֵה אֶל הַר הָעֲבָרִים הַזֶּה הַר נְבוֹ אֲשֶׁר בְּאֶרֶץ מוֹאָב אֲשֶׁר עַל פְּנֵי יְרֵחוֹ וּרְאֵה אֶת אֶרֶץ כְּנַעַן אֲשֶׁר אֲנִי נֹתֵן לִבְנֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל לַאֲחֻזָּה: וּמֻת בָּהָר אֲשֶׁר אַתָּה עֹלֶה שָׁמָּה וְהֵאָסֵף אֶל עַמֶּיךָ כַּאֲשֶׁר מֵת אַהֲרֹן אָחִיךָ בְּהֹר הָהָר וַיֵּאָסֶף אֶל עַמָּיו: עַל אֲשֶׁר מְעַלְתֶּם בִּי בְּתוֹךְ בְּנֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל בְּמֵי מְרִיבַת קָדֵשׁ מִדְבַּר צִן עַל אֲשֶׁר לֹא קִדַּשְׁתֶּם אוֹתִי בְּתוֹךְ בְּנֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל: כִּי מִנֶּגֶד תִּרְאֶה אֶת הָאָרֶץ וְשָׁמָּה לֹא תָבוֹא אֶל הָאָרֶץ אֲשֶׁר אֲנִי נֹתֵן לִבְנֵי יִשְׂרָאֵל

“Hashem spoke to Moshe in the middle of that day, saying, “Ascend to this mount of Avarim, Mount Nevo, which is in the land of Moav, which is before Yericho, and see the land of Canaan that I give to the Children of Israel as an inheritance, and die on the mountain where you will ascend, and be brought in to your people, as Aharon your brother died on Mount Hor, and was brought in to his people, because you trespassed against Me among the Children of Israel. For from a distance shall you see the land, but you shall not enter there, into the land that I give to the Children of Israel. ”
-Devarim 32:48-52

            The passukim describe that Hashem told Moshe that it was time for him to die. However, Moshe’s death would not be like most. Rather, as Rashi[1] comments, Hashem told Moshe that He would merit the same type of death that Aharon had gotten, on which Moshe declared, “Fortunate is the man who dies by this death!” After all, the Gemara[2] describes that there are 903 forms of death which were created in the world. The best form of death is what is called “neshika” (literally: a kiss). This neshika from Hashem is so swift and smooth it like pulling a hair out of milk.[3]

Rashi[4] points out the seemingly unnecessary detail in the passuk that Hashem spoke to Moshe in the middle of that day. There are countless times where the Torah relates Hashem’s speaking to Moshe. However, besides for here, it never indicates the time of day. Why is it that the Torah here adds this detail?

Rashi explains that there are three[5] places in the Torah where this phrase is used in such a circumstance. The first is by the dor hamabul (generation of the flood). Rashi[6] there comments that aside from being wicked and unwilling to do teshuva, the people in Noach’s time had threatened Noach and his family that if they would try to enter the teivah (ark), that they would break down the ark and kill them. In response to this, the passuk describes that Noach and his family went to the teivah “in the middle of that day” in order for Hashem to demonstrate openly and clearly that His word stands and no matter how much the people wanted to harm Noach, they were unable to do so.

The second instance that the Torah notes that an event happened in broad daylight, right in the middle of the day in front of everyone, was during yetziyas Mitzarayim (exodus from Egypt) where the passuk[7] says, “And it was in the brightest part of that day that Hashem took B’nei Yisroel out from Mitzrayim with their legions.” Rashi[8] explains that the Egyptians were saying, “We swear that if we see the B’nei Yisroel trying to leave, we will not allow them; and not only that but we will take swords and weapons and kill them.” Again, in response Hashem specifically took us out smack in the middle of the day as if to declare, “This is my word which stands and whoever thinks they have the power to object, let him come and try to object.”

Similarly in our parsha, Rashi[9] explains that upon hearing that Moshe rabbeinu was on the verge of dying, the B’nei Yisroel wanted to do whatever they could to keep him alive. They declared, “If we see that Moshe is about to die, we will not let him. A man who took us out of Egypt, and parted the Sea for us, and brought down the manna for us and made the pheasants fly to us, and brought the well up for us, and gave us the Torah, we will not let him die.” In response to this too, Hashem said, “Behold I will take him at midday, and whoever thinks they have the power to object, let him come and try.”

On the surface this Rashi is difficult to understand. It is beautiful that the B’nei Yisroel joined together and voiced their appreciation for Moshe and all he did for them as their leader, but what did they think they could do already to prevent Moshe from dying? If Moshe’s time was up it’s up.

There is a joke told of a religious Jew on a plane who had a worried look on his face. The person sitting next to him turns to him and asks, “Why are you so worried?” The Jew responded, “Flying makes me nervous.” “But I thought you Jews are G-d fearing and when your time is up in this world, it’s up?” “That’s all true,” the Jew responds, “But what if the pilot’s time is up?”

Obviously the joke is just a joke and reality is that the details of hashgacha p’ratis (divine providence) do not generally allow for unnecessary punishments to befall someone. However in concept, it is true that when Hashem decides a person’s time is up, there is not much one could do to stop it. So what exactly did the B’nei Yisroel have in mind as an effective way of keeping Moshe rabeinu from dying?

The Be’er Ba’Sadeh[10] explains that the B’nei Yisroel’s strategy was to daven intensely and cry out in tefillos (prayers) to Hashem that Moshe be kept alive. The Be’er Ba’Sadeh continues and writes that in response to this Hashem had no choice but to suddenly remove the thought from their heads.

Imagine the scene: Moshe announces that Hashem told him it is time for him to die. Then, millions of people join together for the biggest Jewish asifa (gathering) and ready themselves for fervent prayer to knock down the doors of Heaven and change the gezairah (decree) in order to keep Moshe, their leader, alive. Upon seeing this, Hashem interfered and removed the idea of praying for Moshe from their minds.

There are two problems with this Be’er Ba’Sadeh. First, Hashem had already told Moshe he was going to die. It was set in stone, his fate was determined. How could the tefillos of B’nei Yisroel change this? Why didn’t Hashem just ignore their tefillos? Hashem had an agenda and a schedule for Moshe’s death, how could mere davening be a “threat” to that plan?[11]

Second, how could we begin to understand why Hashem would interfere and prevent B’nei Yisroel from davening? He is the last One we would think would try to get in the way of prayer. We pray to Him! People sometimes try to interfere, the yetzer harrah (evil inclination) sometimes tries to interfere, but Hashem? Doesn’t he want us learning His Torah and davening to Him – our King – Who is in control of the world? Why would Hashem hinder us from doing what we are essentially here to do?

Perhaps based on these two questions we could extrapolate two fundamental ideas. First, we see from here that indeed tefillos are more than a religious ritual or custom, tefillos create realities. The stronger the power source, the stronger the tefillah. An individual mumbling words is one level, a person davening with kavanah (proper intention) is another level, and a tzibur (public [gathering]) of three million people joining together with one heart, davening intensely with tears creates a reality so powerful that it would break straight through a gezairah of death like a hot knife on butter. No tefillah gets ignored – Hashem created our world intertwined with physicality and spirituality. Just like there is a teva (nature) and system of rules put in place with the physical world, there is also a system in place for the spiritual world. A tefillah cannot be ignored because Hashem wills our tefillos to form kochos (powers) and realities which must have a consequence and effect somewhere. The delivery might not get to the exact address we requested, nor may it be delivered with overnight shipping, but then again how legibly did we write the address on our tefillah package?  Was it clear and neat or in scribbles and scrawls? Did we put enough stamps or just slap on a couple hoping for the best? An individual has the ability to define the power of his tefillah based on his state of mind, kavanos and middos, However even that has its limits. The power of davening with a tzibur grows exponentially. Extremely powerful forces could be emerged from a tzibur davening together. Tefillos which could wipe out entire nations, change gezairos, and save from death.

This was the strategy B’nei Yisroel had in mind. It was a good strategy and would have succeeded. Hashem had to cause them to forget why they were joining together, otherwise their tefillos would have produced such a powerful ko’ach in the world that the calendar date with Moshe’s death written on it would have been ripped to shreds. The question which remains, however, is why did Hashem interfere?
           
The Nefesh Ha’Chayim[12] writes that even amongst the most righteous, who could even achieve a level of never sinning in their entire lives, it is still extremely rare that every single mitzvah and good deed ever done was perfect and absolutely pure with no other thoughts or motives whatsoever. Even the best people are people and have biases or natural leanings based on personality – no matter how small or slight

Sometimes, the imperfect mitzvos or tefillos could be considered “imperfect” for reasons even slighter. It could be that one could think he is doing something good for only the right reasons and he thought it through multiple times, yet he could be missing information or the clear foresight of all its ramifications.
           
This was the situation that the B’nei Yisroel found themselves in. It is true that they were joining together with the best intentions of ha’karas ha'tov and chesed to try to prevent Moshe from dying. However, they were lacking insight to what the ramifications of such a powerful tefillah keeping Moshe rabbeinu alive could have on them and the world. Things would have been extremely different if Moshe would have been alive to be the one to lead us into Eretz Yisroel. Things might have worked out really well and looked good in the short-run, but the long term consequences, which is knowledge and details only Hashem is privy to, were not necessarily good for us as a nation.

There are so many levels co-existing in the world simultaneously. The physical domain itself, the spiritual realms carrying tefillos and learning, the invisible world of tuma’ah and taharah, the world of constantly changing causes and effects to perfectly interact with each individual according to their purpose and tolerance, the world of human choice, and the world of Hashem’s desired outcomes. All are perfectly balanced by the Master of the world Himself. Hashem gave the power of free choice to people. However, free choice does not mean automatic results. A person could decide to go to a party but that does not mean he will necessarily make it there. A phone call, a car issue, a wrong turn, an accident – any number of interferences could be sent his way to prevent him from being at that party. The decision he is responsible, but whether it plays out according to his will depends on a lot more.

From the B’nei Yisroel’s perspective, their davening on behalf of their beloved leader to keep him alive was pure goodness; and indeed that may be true from the perspective of their choice, but not necessarily from the perspective of considering the numerous co-existing worlds which effect so much more. The decision they made, although praiseworthy, did not fit into Hashem’s plans so it had to be stopped. Ignoring their tefillah wouldn’t work because at that point it would be a reality with the power to break the gezairah, so Hashem had to ensure that the tefillah would not be said and therefore caused the B’nei Yisroel to forget the purpose of their gathering.

As we have already started the new year and still in the midst of a month full of intense davening, breaking bad decrees, praying for forgiveness and asking for a good upcoming year, this is something which must remain in our minds. Now more than ever with the amount of domestic struggles and foreign threats which we as individuals and the Jewish people as a nation are facing, we must recognize the very real power of tefillah and try to bring it up a notch – each on his or her own level. May this be a year of gathering of all B’nei Yisroel with one heart and as one unit with meaningful tefillos and proper kavanos so that we experience a year of becoming closer to Hashem without the tzaros (pains). May Hashem answer our tefillos and shower us this year with blessings, success, health, and happiness.



[1] Devarim 32:50
[2] Berachos 8a
[3] Aharon received this death as well as Miriam. However by Miriam it is not referred to explicitly as neshika out of modesty.
[4] Devarim 32:48
[5] Really, there is a fourth time where the Torah uses such an expression – by Avraham aivinu. See Sifsei CHochomim and Be’er Ba’Sadeh as to why Rashi left this one out.
[6] Rashi Beraishis 7:13
[7] Shemos 12:51
[8] Rashi ibid.
[9] Rashi Devarim 32:48
[10]Devarim ibid.
[11] A third issue with this Be’er Ba’Sadeh is that although it is a nice explanation, it does not seem to be consistent with the other “b’etzem ha’yom ha’zeh” examples which Rashi brings. All the other examples were ones where despite people threatening to try to interfere, Hashem declared “try to stop Me”! Here though is different. Hashem did not allow B’nei Yisroel even try to move ahead with their plan  and then declare that He was going to take Moshe regardless. Rather, that Hashem had to remove the thought from their heads so that they forget what they were going to do to save Moshe.
[12] Nefesh Ha’Chayim 1:6 in the second Ha’gah (gloss)

Friday, September 18, 2015

Parshas Vayeilech - The Ripple Effect: Splash Out of Your Bubble or Take it to the Grave

~Thoughts on The Parsha~
Parshas Vayeilech
and
Shabbos Shuvah


The Ripple Effect:
Splash Out of Your Bubble or Take it to the Grave
By: Daniel Listhaus

וַיֹּאמֶר ה' אֶל מֹשֶׁה הִנְּךָ שֹׁכֵב עִם אֲבֹתֶיךָ וְקָם הָעָם הַזֶּה וְזָנָה אַחֲרֵי אֱלֹהֵי נֵכַר הָאָרֶץ אֲשֶׁר הוּא בָא שָׁמָּה בְּקִרְבּוֹ וַעֲזָבַנִי וְהֵפֵר אֶת בְּרִיתִי אֲשֶׁר כָּרַתִּי אִתּוֹ

“Hashem said to Moshe, 'Behold, you will lie with your forefathers, but this people will rise up and stray after gods of that which is foreign to the land, in whose midst it is coming, and it will forsake Me and it will annul my covenant that I have sealed with it.'”
-Vayeilech 31:16

            The Gemara[1] relates that a group of heretics asked Rabban Gamliel, “How do you know that Hashem will resuscitate the dead?” Rabban Gamliel responded with a proof from Torah, a proof from Nevi'im (Prophets), and a proof from K'suvim (Writings),[2] however the heretics did not accept any of the proofs. The proof that Rabban Gamliel brought from Torah is from this week's parsha. The passuk (verse)[3] says that Hashem said to Moshe, “Behold you will lie with your forefathers, but this people will rise up and stray after gods...” This is the way the passuk is conventionally read and indeed the way which the trop (cantillation marks) of the Torah directs us to understand. However, without any punctuation, there is another way to read the passuk, which clearly hints to the concept of techiyas hamaysim (revival of the dead), and that is the following: “Hashem said to Moshe, 'Behold you will lie with your forefathers and get up, but these people will rise up and stray after gods...” Putting the comma after the word “v'kum” (“and will get up”), instead of before, changes the passuk's meaning slightly to be dealing with two separate future events: A time when Moshe will come back from the dead, as well as a time when B'nei Yisroel will sin after entering Eretz Yisroel.

            The problem with this Gemara is that the heretics seem to have had good reason not to listen to Rabban Gamliel. Even without knowing what we do of the correct punctuation in the passuk, it would be a stretch to interpret the passuk in the way Rabban Gamliel suggested, because the construction of the rest of the passuk does not allow for such an explanation. The passuk is grammatically written in such a way that the word “v'kum” is clearly attached to the latter part describing the future mistakes of B'nei Yisroel.[4]

            The Kli Yakar[5] offers the following explanation. Oftentimes, we feel as if we are living in a bubble. We think that the things we do and say effect no one but ourselves and those who are directly impacted. Imagine a principal who is lecturing a class not to cheat on tests. He might argue “You are only hurting yourselves”, or may even extend the discipline to say, “Even if one guy cheats, he is affecting his classmates, who might then take cheating more lightly”. However, rarely does the message include the friends of our friends who will in turn be affected, no matter how slightly, and so on. If we stop to think for a moment, there are in fact very few things we do which do not have much broader impacts. A simple good morning or smile to someone does not only change the attitude and behavior of the one giving and receiving the gesture, but also extends to everyone that each of them interact with for the rest of the day. This idea is known as the ripple effect. Just as one could throw a rock in the middle of a lake and watch the continuously spreading ripples, so to a single action – no matter how small – spreads throughout individuals, communities, and countries, for generations.

            The Gemara[6] brings a statement from R' Yehuda in the name of Rav that a person has the ability to live in two worlds simultaneously.[7] The Gemara explains that this is possible because, for example, when a talmid (student) quotes his deceased rebbe, it is as if the rebbe's lips are moving in the grave.[8] The fact that someone has passed on does not mean that the ripples he has left to spread, and seeds he has planted, go forgotten. Rather, everything stemming from an individual gets attributed back to that individual.

            The same, however, is true for the detriment. Someone who is the cause of others committing aveiros (sins) is responsible for those outcomes as well. And just as a positive ripple effect could be caused by gathering others to do good things, being a role model, or merely encouraging others, so too a negative ripple effect could be caused by doing bad things with others, being a bad example for friends, or merely not giving someone proper mussar (rebuke) at an opportune time. All this gets attributed back to the responsibility of the one who jumped into the water and started the chain reaction.

            With this in mind, the Kli Yakar writes that we could now better appreciate the passuk in our parsha, and how it is indeed a valid source for techiyas hamaysim in the Torah without stretching the simple meaning. Hashem was telling Moshe that for now you are going to be resting with your forefathers. However, this people will later stray after other gods, and they will come to awaken you because you will be held responsible. After all, if B'nei Yisroel turn to avoda zarah (idol worship) in the future, that makes Moshe partially responsible for not instilling the message deep enough. So, the passuk is telling us that there will be a later time when Moshe will indeed return in body to us and we will go up to him. This demonstrates an allusion to the concept of techiyas hamaysim from the Torah.

            The Gemara[9] writes that a whole year Hashem only accepts teshuva (repentance) from the rabim (public). However, during the aseres y'mei teshuva (Ten Days of Repentance – starting on Rosh Hashanah and continuing through Yom Kippur), Hashem even accepts the teshuva of a yachid (individual). These are days when Hashem is close to us, looks at us as individuals, and gives us the opportunity to regret the sins of our past and accept on ourselves to do better in the future. However, we must take a moment to reflect what exactly we have done as individuals. We must realize that we do not live in a bubble. Rather, we live in a place where our actions have ripple effects. The consequences we cause will be attributed back to us forever until the time of techiyas hamaysim. Therefore we must make sure that the impacts we create in this world are indeed ones that we want to take to the grave.

            May we merit to only be the cause of positive consequences and achieve a closeness with Hashem as he grants us a complete s'licha u'mechila on Yom Kippur.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 



[1]    Sanhedrin 90b
[2]    The three parts to Tanach. The proof from Torah is from Devarim 31:16, the proof from Nevi'im is from Yeshaya 26:19, and the proof from K'suvim is from Shir HaShirim 7:10
[3]    Devarim 31:16
[4]    On a simple level, the Ibn Ezra (31:16) seems to express this opinion. However, see Avi Eizer (31:16) who writes that it is not possible that the Ibn Ezra would write such a thing which goes against chazal – i.e. the Gemara in Sanhedrin (90b) which clearly brings this passuk as a real proof. The Avi Eizer therefore explains the Ibn Ezra as only asking on the way the trop was placed.
[5]    Devarim 31:16
[6]    Yevamos 96b-97a
[7]    As seen in the passuk in Tehillim (61:5)
[8]    See Shir Hashirim 7:10 which alludes to this, as brought in the Gemara.
[9]    Rosh Hashanah 18a

Thursday, September 10, 2015

Parshas Nitzavim - Following the Leader

~Thoughts on The Parsha~
Parshas Nitzavim


Following the Leader
By: Daniel Listhaus
אַתֶּם נִצָּבִים הַיּוֹם כֻּלְּכֶם לִפְנֵי ה' אֱלֹקיכֶם רָאשֵׁיכֶם שִׁבְטֵיכֶם זִקְנֵיכֶם וְשֹׁטְרֵיכֶם כֹּל אִישׁ יִשְׂרָאֵל: טַפְּכֶם נְשֵׁיכֶם וְגֵרְךָ אֲשֶׁר בְּקֶרֶב מַחֲנֶיךָ מֵחֹטֵב עֵצֶיךָ עַד שֹׁאֵב מֵימֶיךָ:

“You are standing today, all of you, before Hashem, your G-d; Your heads, your tribes, your elders, and your officers – all the men of Israel; your small children, your women, and your convert who is in the midst of your camp, from the hewer of your wood to the drawer of your water.”
-Nitzavim 29:9-10

            Rashi[1] writes that on the day of his death, Moshe rabbeinu gathered all of B’nei Yisroel before Hashem in order to enter them into the bris (covenant) between them and Hashem. Every single member of K’lal Yisroel was present and Moshe addressed them as a nation. Indeed the Torah itself records Moshe’s speech to B’nei Yisroel. However, the question which begs to be asked is why the Torah felt it necessary to record Moshe’s opening line. In his opening sentence, Moshe seems to start the same way that a speaker would start at a graduation. “You are standing here today: Heads of tribes, elders, officers, and everyone of K’lal Yisroel…” sounds quite similar to, “Esteemed teachers, parents, families, friends, and my fellow graduates…” Why is it that Moshe felt it necessary to single out specific ranks and professions within B’nei Yisroel as opposed to just saying, “Thank you everyone for coming, we are gathered here today…”? And if the reason he did so was just some sort of formality as a way of opening his speech then why does the Torah feel it necessary to record it?

            The Gemara[2] states that one who has the ability to stop an aveirah in his house but does not do so bears responsibility for not doing so and will be punished. Similarly, one who has the ability to protest against the actions of a city but fails to do so is culpable for the actions of the city. And one with the ability to effectively speak out against the world’s behavior but refrains from doing so is liable for the consequences he could have prevented. Based on this Gemara, the Ohr Ha’Chaim[3] suggests that this was the deeper message that Moshe rabbeinu was conveying in his opening statement – that the leaders of K’lal Yisroel are responsible for the entire K’lal, the heads of tribes are responsible for their tribes, that the elders are responsible as heads of their generations of family, while each member of B’nei Yisroel is responsible held accountable for what goes on in their respective homes and circles of influence.
            This lesson is not one to be taken lightly. Sometimes when we think of leaders we think of outstanding or outspoken individuals set to make a difference in the world or community. However, the term leader is much broader than that. As a matter of fact, although there may be important qualifications for one to be a good leader,[4]  there is really only one requirement to be a leader and that is to simply have a follower.  Many people have others who they openly look up to – whether public influencers, close friends, or teachers – and across many different categories, from culture and behavior to spirituality and life structure. Many of us, though, have mentors who we secretly admire as well. Perhaps a peer or sibling who does a particular thing in a way you look up to, or perhaps a random person you met once in a park or walking down the street with a particular middah you liked and decided to adopt even though you will never see him again. However we must keep in mind that just as we have people who we openly and secretly respect, others do as well; and for all you know it may be you who someone looks up to and respects. If we are expected to protest and speak out against our spheres of influence, then we are certainly expected to speak out and protest and to think for ourselves before doing things because even if we don’t think that others look up to us, the truth is that there are people who do and besides for the responsibility we have for ourselves we are responsible for those we have influence over as well.
           
            The Gemara[5] relates that Hashem commands us to recite Malchiyos on Rosh Hashanah in order that we should crown Hashem as King over us. Just as it was Adom Ha’rishon who first proclaimed Hashem as King, so too we affirm this year after year on Rosh Hashanah, the birthday of the world and mankind. The interesting paradox of leaders and followers is that although a follower is someone who follows a leader, it is the follower himself who validates the leader as such. So, in a way, a follower is really a leader in his own right. When Hashem created the world He was a Creator, Controller, and Owner, but was not a King until Adom Ha’rishon proclaimed him as such. This is something we allude to in Adon Olam, “Adon Olam asher malach b’terem kol y’tzir nivra. L’eis na’asah b’cheftzo kol, azai melech shemo nikra…” “Master of the Universe Who reigned before any form was created. At the time when His will created all things, then as “King” His name was proclaimed…” A King needs subjects, a leader needs followers. It is the validation of the King by His subjects that He becomes a King and it is the follower’s validation of the leader which allows him to obtain that title.

            We must always keep these ideas in mind. One, that each of us is a leader whether we like it or not and whether we are aware of it or not. Just as we secretly look up to people and will imitate the good behaviors of some or perhaps rationalize our bad behaviors because of peer pressure or what we see our influencers doing, so too others look at us – some picking out a good middah we have and learning from it and others rationalizing their behaviors based on what they see us do. Therefore extreme care must be taken to be cognizant of the fact that we have followers and that we are responsible for the way we portray ourselves and the influence we have over them.

            Second, we must recognize that even if we lived in a complete bubble and were absolutely certain that we did not have followers, still by choosing to follow a certain leader or starting to do a certain thing validates it and gives it the strength to be a leader or influencer; and we are responsible for that as well. If someone is doing something inappropriate and we follow suit then we may bear the responsibility of validating his actions and if by extension others are influenced, we will have to answer for those consequences.

            This is the scary but vital lesson that Moshe opened with when entering K’lal Yisroel into a bris with Hashem. Whether it be speaking out against someone doing something improper, or us controlling ourselves in order to guide our followers and make sure not to validate bad leaders, we are accountable for our spheres of influence. We bear the responsibility of consequences that we could have been prevented.

            May Hashem help us always be cognizant of acting in His ways so that we could be proper mentors and leaders for our followers, as well as proper followers who validate the right leaders. In this zechus (merit) may He turn to us with favorable k’siva v’chasima tovah as we stand before Him on Rosh Hashanah and declare Him as King and we His servants.



[1] Devarim 29:9
[2] Shabbos 54b
[3] Devarim 29:9
[4] For more on the subject see my d’var Torah: Parshas Pinchas – Core Credentials
[5] Rosh Hashanah 16a

Friday, September 4, 2015

Parshas Ki Savo - The Secret Life of Avatar City

~ Thoughts on the Parsha ~
Parshas Ki Savo


The Secret Life of Avatar City
By: Daniel Listhaus

אָרוּר הָאִישׁ אֲשֶׁר יַעֲשֶׂה פֶסֶל וּמַסֵּכָה תּוֹעֲבַת ה' מַעֲשֵׂה יְדֵי חָרָשׁ וְשָׂם בַּסָּתֶר וְעָנוּ כָל הָעָם וְאָמְרוּ אָמֵן

“‘Accursed is the man who will make a graven or molten image, an abomination of Hashem, a craftsman’s handiwork, and emplace it in secret.’ And the entire people shall speak up and say, ‘Amen’.”
 -Ki Savo 27:15

בַּבֹּקֶר תֹּאמַר מִי יִתֵּן עֶרֶב וּבָעֶרֶב תֹּאמַר מִי יִתֵּן בֹּקֶר מִפַּחַד לְבָבְךָ אֲשֶׁר תִּפְחָד וּמִמַּרְאֵה עֵינֶיךָ אֲשֶׁר תִּרְאֶה

“In the morning you will say, ‘If only it were evening!’ And in the evening you will say, ‘If only it would be morning!’ – for the fright of your heart that you will fear and the sight of your eyes that you will see’.”
-Ki Savo 28:67

            The Torah[1] describes that half of B’nei Yisroel, divided by shevatim (tribes) went up on Har Gerizim and the other half went up on Har Eival. The Kohanim and Levi’im stood in the valley in between and the Levi’im called out each beracha (blessing) while facing Har Gerizim and the entire B’nei Yisroel answered “amen”. Then the Levi’im turned toward Har Eival with the corresponding k’lalah (curse) and all of B’nei Yisroel answered “amen” to each of those as well.[2]

The Rashbam[3] comments that the twelve curses listed are all referring to aveiros (sins) which one does privately. Regarding two of the twelve curses – avodah zarrah (idol worship) and one who hits one’s friend – the Torah specifically writes that it refers to one who does so “b’sa’ser” (in private) because since it is just as common for one to do those things publicly as privately, the Torah specifies that here by the curses it refers specifically to one who does so privately.[4]

            The Kli Yakar[5] observes that indeed it is possible for a person to be living a double life. On the outside one may give off the impression that he or she is living a life of Torah and mitzvos while the reality could be exactly the opposite. As a matter of fact, this was actually the case by the second Beis Ha’makdish. When the second Beis Ha’mikdash was being destroyed there was mass confusion. After all, there were no specific aveiros (sins) to point to that were being done that would have caused such a catastrophe. Not only that, but everyone seemed to be learning and keeping the Torah. Even the malachim (angels) could not figure out why the Beis Ha’mikdash was destroyed until the question was asked to Hashem Himself Who explained that the beautiful learning on the outside was a façade and that the reality was that people were learning for ulterior motives. One could live a double life and fool everyone – the chochomim, nevi’im, malachim, and if one gets in too deep one could even begin to fool oneself, but one cannot fool Hashem.

            The words of the Kli Yakar, although said regarding the warnings in the Torah of living a dual life through faking keeping Torah and mitzvos, scream loud and clear and are certainly true in our generation with the numerous emotional conflicts people go through and the double lives that they  lead. Nowadays, despite the tremendous liberties and technologies, abundances and luxuries, so many people live high stress lives. Even people who on the outside look happy and content are sometimes dealing with extreme struggles – whether from external sources or from within themselves. 

            With the release of video games with missions for players to create life simulations, researchers have found a very strong correlation between the lives that the players actually led in real life and that which they chose to set in such games. Correlations often existed throughout many categories from “personality” to “home settings”. For example, introverted people often created introverted characters, and people from divorced homes often set or caused that setting for their characters. The same was found true when people create gaming avatars – cartoon characters or icons chosen by a player to use during a game. People tend to choose characters that they feel portray themselves. Interestingly, however, there were sometimes complete negative correlations. A kid who is quiet and well-behaved at school may come home at night and make his characters commit horrible crimes. Sometimes kids experiencing complete disaster and abuse at home worked hard at making the perfect world for their characters. Research concluded an interesting two observations from these discoveries. First, that although some players project their current selves into their made up worlds, others project what they want their future selves to be into their made up worlds. Second, that sometimes a person’s present self as everyone perceives him or her, is not necessarily an accurate assessment of the gears turning in one’s mind or the emotions that drive him. After all, a bomb on a timer could also seem calm with a metronomic ticking until it explodes. It turns out that creating avatars and controlling life simulations contain identity cues. Individuals who live a certain unwanted lifestyle in the real world may view virtual worlds, and the avatars within them, as an opportunity to express their true selves.

            This idea of so many people having a dual identity is one far from unimaginable. Everyone has secrets. Everyone has motives. It is virtually impossible to find someone who is 100% genuine with absolutely nothing different on the outside from what is on the inside. If even the great generation of pious, learned individuals during the time of the Beis Ha’mikdash were not who they portrayed themselves as being, than certainly now-a-days with the all the craziness that exists and the unprecedented stress within the complex lives we live and the multi-tiered web of relationships we maintain, there is certainly the potential for a single individual to have more simultaneous identities than a chameleon that falls into a bag of M&M’s.

            Earlier in the parsha[6] the Torah commands, “Perform these statutes and the laws, and you shall observe and perform them with all your heart and with all your soul”. The Rosh[7] explains that one must not be a person who says one thing but does another. One’s mouth – what he says and portrays himself to be on the outside – should perfectly reflect what one is truly thinking and feeling on the inside. In the midst of the tochacha, while describing the horrors that will come to us if we do not follow the Torah, the passuk[8] says, “In the morning you will say, ‘If only it would be evening!’ And in the evening you will say, ‘If only it would be morning!’….” Whether this means that the person wishes he was still living in the past[9] or that he wishes that time just fast-forward to the next stage,[10] one thing is clear: that the person will be unhappy in his present state. Indeed, besides for on one level referring specifically to a person in the midst of harsh punishments, on another level it is also a direct consequence of one who has internal struggles and self contradictions. A person who displays himself as one way on the outside but is another on the inside will find oneself unhappy and wishing for things to go back the way they were or for the next stage to just come.

            The Rema writes in Shulchan Aruch[11] that the minhag (custom) for B’nei Ashkenaz (Ashkenazi Jews) is to start saying selichos the Sunday (motzaei shabbos) prior to Rosh Hashanah unless Rosh Hashanah falls out on a Monday or Tuesday in which case we start reciting selichos on the motzaei shabbos a week before the one immediately before Rosh Hashanah. The Mishna Berura[12] explains that we always want to have a minimum of four days of selichos before Rosh Hashanah.  The reason for this is because regarding Rosh Hashanah the passuk says, “va’aseesem olah” (you should make an olah) as opposed to the usual wording of “v’hekravtem olah” (you should bring an olah). We learn from here that on Rosh Hashanah we must make ourselves as if we are the offering. Therefore, just as we find by karbanos that the animals required four days worth of checking for blemishes before being ready to bring as an offering, so too we require a minimum of four days worth of checking ourselves extra carefully before entering Rosh Hashanah. Those of us who generally finds ourselves saying in the morning that we wish it would be evening, and in the evening that we wish it were morning should recognize this red-flag and specifically check for inner struggles or self contradictions. Are we forcing ourselves to act a certain way on the outside because of social pressures when inside we are really different? Are we committed to doing things but feel uncomfortable with the reasons behind them? Are we caught in a circular routine with no exit? Do our proverbial avatar cities parallel our real ones? And even if they do, is that the way they are supposed to look? These are the questions that we must ask while we check ourselves during these days leading up to Rosh Hashanah. Our words must be an accurate reflection of what we are feeling within, which means that time must be spent thinking about what we are in fact feeling inside. Introspection and self intellectual honesty are absolutely necessary for us to understand what our strengths and weaknesses are as well as where we are at and which direction we should be heading.

            So many people are living dangerous secret lives; some purposely, some accidentally. On the surface a person could justify it as walking on egg shells and keeping his personal desires entertained while simultaneously satisfying the expectations of one’s family, rabbeim, and friends. However this state of self contradiction takes a toll on the body and soul as the worst lack of shalom (peace) and the closest to home. If a person has a fake shalom in himself than the genuineness of any shalom that comes from him could be questioned as well – a virtual dayo lavo min ha’din l’heiyos k’nidon. Whether a person is frum but not a yarei shamayim, a friend with ulterior motives for the friendship, or any of the horrendous contradictions that people live with in-between and beyond, one must take the time to stop and reflect where he or she is at and what needs to be done to recalibrate.

            May Hashem help us discover the conflicts between our mouths and hearts so that we could begin working on fixing them and prepare ourselves as true servants in order to not only properly declare Hashem as our King on Rosh Hashanah – but to mean it.



[1] Devarim 27:11-14
[2] See Rashi Devarim 27:12
[3] Devarim 27:15. See also Chizkuni
[4] See also Malbim who goes through these aveiros and explains what each one is and stresses each time the fact that dealing with aveiros done privately.
[5] Devarim 27:12
[6] Devarim 26:16
[7] Ibid.
[8] Devarim 28:67
[9] This is how Rashi (28:67) explains based on Gemara Sotah 49a – that in the morning the person will wish it was still the night before, and at night he will wish that it was the previous morning.
[10] See Rashbam 28:67 that according to the simple reading of passuk it would seem that the person is hoping for the future just as one who is sick longs for the end to come.
[11] Shulchan Aruch: Orach Chaim 581:1
[12] Shulchan Aruch: Orach Chaim 581:1:6 (in his second explanation)